The holidays are a time to create memories and enjoy special moments with loved ones.
You may have family traditions that have been passed down or perhaps you are creating your own.
Many look forward to the merriment and festivities that occur during the holiday season – the parties, the food, the company, the music, the games…
However, a special needs family may experience increased stress and frustration during the holidays.
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Schedules are disrupted, sensory systems go into overdrive, meltdowns may increase and we are left to deal with the aftermath.
Often, holidays are the furthest thing from the most wonderful time of the year for special needs families.
There are some key things to remember as a special needs family during the holidays.
Special needs families can not only survive the holidays, but enjoy them to the fullest.
Prepare and Plan
This seems simple, but for special needs families to navigate the holiday season it is absolutely essential.
Disruptions to routines could send our kids into a tailspin and being unprepared for the changes could prove disastrous.
So planning ahead and being prepared will eliminate much of the stress associated with the hustle and bustle of the holiday season.
Avoid Surprises
Similarly, surprises are not always welcome for special needs children. They may provoke unnecessary anxiety which could lead to meltdowns.
During the holiday season, be sure to share with your special needs children when they will be attending outings or events or any upcoming changes.
If there will be loud music or relatives that may invade personal space, let your child know ahead of time so they won’t be surprised.
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Keep Expectations Reasonable
Something about our own holiday memories or romanticized notions of holiday traditions causes us to try to recreate perfect experiences for our own families.
It is essential to keep expectations reasonable so as to not end up frustrated or stressed out.
For example, if it is not manageable to get your family dressed up for formal pics with Santa each year, then skip it!
Or, do some research and find a service where Santa can come to your house for a much more informal (and more than likely enjoyable!) experience.
Communicate with Family, Guests and Hosts
Often we gather with people we do not see on a regular basis over the holidays. We may even open our home to host on this special occasion.
Prior to getting together, communicate with those who will be at your gathering and inform them of your child’s needs.
Perhaps let them know that your child is sensitive to noise or is not really into opening presents.
Whatever you would like your fellow party goers to know about your child, take the time beforehand to send them a message to avoid potentially awkward situations.
Don’t be Afraid to Say No
The holidays are times where we may put a lot of pressure on ourselves to get everything done perfectly.
Do not be afraid to say no! There is no need to try to do it all. Do what works for you and your family.
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Schedule Rest and Recuperation Time
Be sure to schedule time to decompress from all of the merry making. It is just as important for you as it is for your child to rest and recuperate.
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